We all know the feeling. We are super stressed, got 20 things on the to-do list for the week, and then your friend calls and ask if you can meet for coffee Sunday afternoon. The two hours you had hoped could be used on the couch doing nothing.
Maybe it isn’t this extreme, maybe it’s worse, the point is that we all have periods in our life where we feel overwhelmed.
And even when pulling hair out, feeling like crying in the bathroom, or so stressed we have been forgetting to eat for three days, we keep saying yes.
Yes to overtime.
Yes to meetings.
Yes to coffee dates.
Yes, yes, yes, yes.
We do this because we’ve been told from little that that’s the polite thing. We do it because we don’t want to disappoint. And we do it because we feel an obligation towards the people around us.
But we often forget that we also have an obligation towards ourselves. That we need to take care of our selves before we can take care of everyone else.
So today I’m here to tell you it’s okay to say no.
It’s okay to tell the boss you can’t do overtime.
It’s okay to say no to that coffee date.
It’s okay to take care of yourself.
Taking time to just breath doesn’t make you a bad person. Saying no to go out with the girls just so you can lie on the couch, eating chips and watch bad tv doesn’t make you anti social or a bad friend.
It means you are saying yes to self care. It means you’re saying yes to recharging your batteries. It means you’re listening to what your body is so desperately trying to tell you.
Saying no is okay.
Are you bad at saying no, or have you learned to listen to your body? Let me know in the comments.