I was very much on the fence about this post, but in the end decided to write it. So, let’s get personal. As I’ve mentioned before, I have 2 kids, and while pregnant with both of them I put on a lot of weight. Being pregnant and putting on weight is a bad combination for your skin, and I have stretch marks, a lot of stretch marks, all over my body. From my boobs to my thighs.
On both my boobs and my thighs the stretch marks shows up as little white lines. They are mostly the cute little things that you think about when thinking pregnant and stretch marks. They are mostly visible when I get a tan, but since I don’t really tan, that’s not the biggest problem.
The ones on my stomach and pelvic area (yes, even the bush can get stretch marks, who knew) on the other hand are not the pretty little white lines. They cover my stomach in a spiderweb of lines going from pale white to a more purple color. Some are thin, but a lot of them are big, and angry looking, even 11 years after I had my last kid.
I have read article after article about how to make them go away, but truth is, they are there to stay. Stretch marks are the destruction of the collagen and tissue in the deep skin layers, and while expensive laser treatment might make the worst of them seem smaller, they would always be there.
People call them scars, which isn’t actually true, because a scar is the result of the body repairing itself, and the stretch marks are the result of the body not being able to repair itself, but as with a scar, the stretch marks might fade a bit over time, but for most they are here to stay.
I’m working hard on accepting that these marks are just part of who I am, just like the lose skin that’s appearing with my weight loss, and most days I’m doing good and some days it sucks so bad. But one thing is for sure, I’m done trying to hide them. We all have “flaws”, it’s what makes us all unique, and we really shouldn’t feel ashamed no matter what the media tells us.